A Simple Tool for Couples to Reflect on Their Patterns
Not a scientific assessment, but a gentle way to notice how you and your partner approach decisions differently. Free, no signup required.
Please note: This is an informal tool for self-reflection, not a professional evaluation. It's meant to spark conversations, not diagnose relationship issues.
What This Can Help With
While not comprehensive, many couples find it helpful for noticing patterns around:
Communication Habits
Seeing how you each tend to express concerns or bring up difficult topics.
Decision Approaches
Noticing differences in how you make choices together.
Potential Growth Areas
Identifying where small adjustments might help you work together better.
How It Works
A straightforward process with no pressure
Answer Honestly
Complete our short questionnaire with realistic scenarios. There are no right or wrong answers - just respond with what feels most true for you.
See Your Patterns
Get a simple profile showing tendencies in how you approach relationship decisions.
Talk It Over
Use the insights as a starting point for open, curious conversations with your partner.
Common Patterns We Notice
These aren't strict categories, just general tendencies some people recognize
The Harmonious Navigator
Prefers compromise and balance
Tends to look for solutions that work for both partners.
- Often good at seeing both sides
- May sometimes overlook own needs
- Values peaceful resolution
The Passionate Partner
Has strong feelings about relationships
Tends to have clear ideas about how relationships should work.
- Often direct in communication
- May benefit from flexibility
- Values authenticity deeply
The Pragmatic Partner
Practical and solution-focused
Tends to approach challenges with logic and practicality.
- Often good at problem-solving
- May need help with emotional expression
- Values practical outcomes
The Devoted Anchor
Values commitment and stability
Tends to prioritize relationship security and loyalty.
- Often reliable and steadfast
- May need help with flexibility
- Values deep commitment
What People Say
How some couples have used this tool
"It helped us notice we had different approaches to making decisions. Not better or worse, just different. That awareness alone helped us be more patient with each other."
"We were stuck on how to divide household responsibilities. Seeing our different approaches helped us find a compromise."
"It's not therapy, but it did help us start some conversations we'd been avoiding. Sometimes you just need a little nudge."
Common Questions
What you might be wondering
No, this is not a scientifically validated assessment. It's an informal tool based on common relationship patterns we've noticed. Think of it more like a conversation starter than a clinical evaluation.
This tool alone won't solve deep relationship issues. At best, it might help you notice some patterns and start useful conversations. For serious concerns, we always recommend professional help.
Treat them as talking points, not absolute truths. The most value comes from discussing: "Does this resonate? Where do we agree or disagree? How might we use this awareness?"
Yes, we don't store your answers or results. Everything happens in your browser. However, as this isn't a secure platform, we recommend not sharing extremely sensitive information.
Curious About Your Patterns?
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